How To Reprogram Your Fear Based Response Exercise
Updated: Oct 25, 2019
Did you read the Soulworks Facebook post about fear yesterday? If not, here it is...
'Fear is an interloper. It pretends to be our friend but, in fact, it plays a highly destructive role in most of our lives, inhibiting and preventing us from reaching our full potential. Of course, fear has a healthy biological function to keep us safe. It stops us sticking our hand into a fire or walking in front of fast moving traffic. The problem is that for many of us it has ceased to be a tool we use to help us assess real risk and has instead taken control.
Fear often comes disguised as common sense. It focuses on the future, on what could happen or, more specifically, what could go wrong. When we try to make changes or move outside our comfort zone, fear pipes up with advice like, 'what if that doesn't work' or 'what if you're not good enough'. It tells us if we just live a little smaller, we'll be a little safer down the track. 🤔
This is just an illusion...🤨 it's like sitting in a rocking chair, giving you constant motion but getting nowhere. Fear robs us of our sleep, our perspective and self-belief.
The problem is allowing fear to govern our lives doesn't work. We can't control the uncontrollable, no matter how hard we try. Remember what we focus on grows. The more we focus on possible negative outcomes, the more fearful we become and ironically the more likely they are to happen.'
Now, that we understand fear a little and what it can do to you, the following is an exercise to replace your fear based response system by creating a new map for your life. Give it try and let me know your thoughts. Your can email me at email@example.com
Find a sheet of paper and pen.
Centre yourself by taking a least five deep breaths in and out.
Scan your mind for situations that you have a lot of fear around. It could be that you're scared of public speaking, or saying no to family, friends for example.
Jot each one down in a circle around the central word 'fear' so that you create a mind map of what your life looks like when it's governed by fear.
Add in any feelings that those situations evoke, for example anxiety, hopelessness, indecisiveness etc.
How does all that look? Not pleasant... that's ok. Now we're going to look at upgrading your response system.
Use coloured pencils or pens, turn the page over and write the word 'trust' in the middle.
Ask yourself, how would my life look if l wasn't afraid ? How would l feel? What would l do differently? Jot down keywords about how each situation would be transformed if you weren't afraid. Really get honest! Visualise what you're life would look like ~ make those visions more vivid and real than the lies fear has given you. Enjoy them.
Write down words that sum up how your life looks without fear: free, big, adventurous, safe, bold, happy, courageous, joyful. Enjoy these feelings.
Congratulations! You've just mapped out a new direction for your life. The map marked 'trust' is how your life is going to become. Look at it each morning to set your direction for the day and give your subconscious a goal to aim for. If you want to supercharge your trust circle, write down affirmations that you can say daily to bring your visualisations alive in your heart. If you get stuck on what affirmations to write, jump onto Google. There is a ton of them available.
Enjoy creating your new life beautiful soul.
Carmela Pollock is a holistic trained Counsellor, Quantum Healing Hypnotherapist, Usui Reiki Master Teacher, animal lover, and avid book reader. She started her Reiki journey nearly 10 years ago after a life-long struggle with chronic pain caused by uterine disease. After discovering the healing power of Reiki, she is living a quality of life that was unimaginable before. She empowers her clients to discover their own path to healing through self-transformation. She is the founder of Soulworks Essential Therapies where she holds a sacred space to conduct healing sessions and train others in the traditional Usui system of Reiki.
If you would like to know more about Carmela's services, visit her website at www.soulworksessential.com/workwithme
'I started seeing Carmela a few months ago, for both Reiki and Holistic Counselling. Carmela amazes me each time with her caring loving nature, her enthusiasm and her beautiful soul. I believe I am very lucky that Carmela has come into my life, and I will continue to have Reiki and counselling with her.'
~ Wendy S, Langwarrin, Victoria, Australia
'Carmela has changed my life in so many ways. I was struggling and without direction. I played small because l didn't know how to get out of this limiting mindset. She guided me gently and opened a space of compassion and connection. I am so thankful and grateful of her skills to open a heart like mine that was closed for so long due to grief and childhood neglect. Thank you Carmela for what you do. She is amazing.'
~ Stephanie B, Mornington, Victoria, Australia